‘Frustrated and unappreciated’ man attacked cancer-suffering partner over burger sauce
PUBLISHED: 09:33 11 October 2018 | UPDATED: 17:21 11 October 2018
A man assaulted his cancer-suffering partner after she put the sauce in his burger in the wrong place.
Chris Gilham, of Curlew Way, Great Yarmouth, attacked his partner of 18 years twice last month after feeling “unappreciated” in the relationship.
The 59-year-old had previously been convicted of battery against his partner in 2015, when a restraining order was made, before being revoked when the pair reconciled.
At Great Yarmouth Magistrates’ Court on Wednesday, Stacie Cossey, prosecuting, said: “On September 8, she had made him a burger but put the sauce in the wrong place.
“He threw it at her and shouted that he did not like his food being messed with and that it was something else she could not do right. He grabbed her by the neck and was shaking her.
“They both had the following week off work on holiday and on September 13 she could not decide what she wanted to do.
“He grabbed her hair and slapped her legs, before picking up a bottle of wine and hitting her on the arm with it.
“When she got away he threw the coffee table at her and tipped the sofa over. He followed her upstairs and threw her in the bath, saying it was another day ruined.”
The court heard how Gilham was “frustrated” after being relied on to take his wife to breast cancer appointments.
Arthur Balls, defending, said: “He knows what happened was not acceptable, but he wants to explain how it culminated in this.
“From his perspective, he was the main financial support in the house, but he was unappreciated and taken for granted, especially when his wife was ill and needing to go to hospital. It was all one-way traffic.
“He would try and have special occasions but the affection was never reciprocated. This all culminated in pent-up frustration where he lost his temper.”
Gilham, who also had previous convictions for assaulting his first wife in 1995 and his mother in 1999, pleaded guilty to two counts of assault.
He was handed a two-year community order, involving 10 rehabilitation days and 80 hours of unpaid service. He must also pay £100 compensation, a victim surcharge of £85 and court costs of £85.
A new restraining order was made, banning Gilham from having any contact with his former partner or visiting her home and place of work.