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‘I was so lost in my own head’ - Ex-Norwich City star Darren Eadie on his battle with mental health

PUBLISHED: 16:16 17 November 2018 | UPDATED: 16:16 17 November 2018

Darren Eadie knows what it's like to think your down days will just pass. Picture Richard Kelly

Darren Eadie knows what it's like to think your down days will just pass. Picture Richard Kelly

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Former Norwich City footballer Darren Eadie opens up about his own battles with mental health and tells men who may be struggling - talk about it.

Darren Eadie likes to keep fit, but talking is the first step towards tackling mental health problems. Picture Richard KellyDarren Eadie likes to keep fit, but talking is the first step towards tackling mental health problems. Picture Richard Kelly

Many of you reading this maybe already aware that I’ve had my own struggles with mental health. At the age of 28 I had to retire from football due to injury. It was a lot to deal with and it took its toll on me.

For many men they may not even realise they’re suffering from depression. I certainly didn’t, I felt down, and I felt low but I just thought that it was just me. It was when I started having more bad days than good and that I realised this had been going on for a while I knew I needed help. It was starting to affect people around me and I knew I couldn’t go on like this.

Anxiety and depression can be triggered at any time and can affect anyone regardless of their age, their job, their status in life, sexuality, anything. It’s a huge issue that needs to be addressed.

1 in 8 men in the past week alone will have experienced a common mental health problem. That’s staggering in itself.

Menkind is the Norfolk County Council campaign to encourage men to take their health seriously.Menkind is the Norfolk County Council campaign to encourage men to take their health seriously.

Mental illness can have wide reaching impact. It was only when I started to come out of it I realised then that it had been affecting my wife, my kids, my whole family. It can cause sadness and chaos all around and at the time you don’t realise it. I was so lost in my own head, I couldn’t see the wood for the trees. It sounds quite selfish, but you just get so immersed in your own thoughts you can’t think about anything or anyone else. That’s how it was for me.

Thankfully I was able to get that help and I find myself in a much better place now. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s that things do improve. At the time you think there’s no way out but give it time, things do change, you will get better. You learn over time with different help how to deal with different situations and you manage it.

There’s no fast cure to mental ill health, anyone would tell you that. If you’ve suffered in the past from anxiety and depression, you’ll know that it doesn’t simply go away. More that you just learn how to deal with it, you start to recognise the signs of another episode and can draw on your own tools to help you manage it.

Being rurally isolated can make things seem even harder and can quickly lead to suicidal thoughts when already feeling in a low mood. In fact, the rate of suicide in Norfolk is higher than the national rate. During 2015-2017 there were 251 suicides in Norfolk, with male suicides accounting for 76% of all suicides. One of the reasons for Norfolk having higher than average rates of suicide is partly down to the rural isolation in the county.

Your family may know something is wrong but they're not sure what, talk to them. Picture Getty ImagesYour family may know something is wrong but they're not sure what, talk to them. Picture Getty Images

Most people don’t realise that everybody has a story to tell. As a bloke it’s easy to put on a face to show it’s okay and pretend everything’s alright. We all have times when things aren’t going so well for us, and that’s when we need to sit, open up and talk things through. Just by talking about how you’re feeling will make you realise that it isn’t as horrible as you think it is. Sharing your thoughts will make you feel much better – it doesn’t have to be a specialist, it could be with a mate, your partner or family member, you just need to let somebody in.

To sum up I would simply say open up, please don’t keep it all in, talk to people and above all try to think positively. I’m not an expert but I have gone through this myself, if anyone wants to get in touch and ask me questions please do so via twitter, message me at @eadie11

Speak soon. Darren

•Visit www.norfolk.gov.uk/5ways

Telling a friend or a family member that you're not feeling great is the first step in looking after your mental health. Picture: Getty ImagesTelling a friend or a family member that you're not feeling great is the first step in looking after your mental health. Picture: Getty Images

If you feel you are at risk of suicide or know somebody who might be please visit our resource centre at www.norfolk.gov.uk/iamokay In an emergency - ring 999 for emergency services or call 116123 for Samaritans

Darren Eadie is the ambassador for the Norfolk County Council’s Menkind initiative, a campaign to try to encourage men to think about their health. See his blogs at www.norfolk.gov.uk/care-support-and-health/health-and-wellbeing/adults-health/mens-health-menkind

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